Are You My Soul Mate?

Prayers for the Families of the Student/Faculty Body of VA Tech

2007-04-17T10:15:00.001-07:00

My sympathies goes to the family and student/faculty body of VA Tech and hope that they can heal after the horrid massacre that happened yesterday at VA Tech in Blacksburg, Virginia. Peace, prayers and white light goes to them.

Follow this link to learn more.

Tags: VA Tech

LOVE IS IN THE AIR - FREE VALENTINE'S DAY EBOOK AVAILABLE NOW!

2007-02-13T00:27:00.000-08:00

It's official!

LOVE IS IN THE AIR, a free Valentine's Day ebook is available!

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE:

Give the Gift of Love: LOVE IS IN THE AIR - Free Valentine’s Day eBook!

February 13, 2007 - Just in time for Valentine’s Day, The Writer’s Life Publications announces the release of “Love is in the Air,” a free 65-page downloadable eBook, filled with love stories and love advice for the romantic in you!

“Love is in the Air,” is written by the members of The Writersville Gang, an online Yahoo! writing group, which includes Rebecca Camarena, Sandy Lender, Gale Sparks, Dorothy Thompson, Michael Witherspoon and Jamieson Wolf.

“I’m really excited about this eBook,” says Dorothy Thompson, editor of The Writer’s Life and moderator of the online writing group. “Not only are we giving back to our faithful readers, but we are also learning the ins and outs of self-publishing. It’s been a great learning experience for all of us and has helped us find out what it takes to pump up our own online book promotion by using our free eBooks as guinea pigs. We learn what works and what doesn’t which is highly important because it eliminates the time wasters and shows us how to market our books effectively.”

The Writer’s Life Publications is run and operated by Dorothy Thompson and publishes several free eBooks throughout the year.

To download your free Valentine’s Day eBook, LOVE IS IN THE AIR, visit www.thewriterslife.net/loveisintheair.html.

Press Contact:
Dorothy Thompson
Editor, The Writer’s Life Magazine
P.O. Box 313
Temperanceville, Virginia 23442
thewriterslife@yahoo.com
http://www.thewriterslife.net/

Tags: free Valentine's Day ebook, online book promotion, free ebook, marketing your book, self-publishing, downloadable ebook, love stories, love advice, pump up your online book promotion, The Writer's Life, The Writersville Gang

Relationship Advice: Will My First Love and I Be a Couple Again?

2007-01-15T21:45:00.000-08:00

I have been reunited with my first love and we have been in touch through lunch, emails, and voicemails for the last four years. We are both currently married. I want to know if we will ever be sexually passionate again and be a couple as we once were? I truly believe he is my twin soul mate.

Once a soul mate, always a soul mate. It’s very normal to harbor feelings for our first love, so don’t feel guilty about it! As for him being your twin soul, I’d have to know more, but the way it sounds, it looks to me that he might be one of your companion soul mates.

Companion soul mates are just as special as your twin soul, so even if he does not turn out to be your twin soul, he was and still is a very important part of your life. As for as being the couple you once were, that is highly unlikely because the couple you once were has gone through a lot of life lessons and with that, growing pains, and the two of you have become entirely different persons you once were. While the feelings can be stirred and the passions reignited, the road you both are on now is completely different. You both have married, and I’m taking it that if you and he feel that there is a need to reunite, there are problems within both your marriages that must be solved. If they cannot be solved, it’s time to move on. Whether that includes you two becoming one again, it would depend on the factors involved. Because the spirits of the two of you are fighting to be rejoined, the reality of it is that it’s not that simple. The first thing you need to do is decide whether breaking up your marriage is worth it.

If the marriage has problems that can be resolved, my first instinct is to tell you to at least try to work it out because you don’t want to make a big mistake. I’ve heard of cases where two soul mates who are in marriages meet and decide to leave their spouses for their new soul mate only to find they wish they had at least tried to resolve whatever problems there were in the marriage because, in reality, they still loved them. Thus, they found themselves in the soul mate triangle, and even more problems surfaced because of it.

If the problems cannot be resolved, then there’s your cue. But, unless you want to find yourself in a three-way soul mate relationship which has its own set of problems, I’d try to tie up loose ends by looking inside your marriage and seeing what you think the problem might be. If there is a communication problem, encourage your spouse to talk to you about it. If there are drugs, alcohol, or abuse-related issues, my advice to you would be to pack up your bags because it’s only going to get worse without any outside help.

With that said, there is no harm in communicating with your previous soul mate because there is a strong reason why he has resurfaced, and I’m figuring it is because your spirit is crying out for help concerning whatever it is that is going on in your marriage. He has been called to help you with this. Don’t look at it as an opportunity to escape. Look at it as a golden opportunity to find out in which direction you need to go. Listen to your inner self. Your inner self will tell you what you need to do and where you need to go.

Hope this helps!

The Soul Mate Queen
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To read more advice, or to ask my advice on a soul mate issue, you can visit www.soulmatequeen.homestead.com/FreeRelationshipAdvice.html.
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January is National Breakup Month

2007-01-08T17:04:00.000-08:00

If it wasn’t enough to have January being one of the coldest, if not dreariest, months of the year, they had to go and dub it the month more couples break up than any other month of the year.

Six out of ten couples will break up this month. Sounds awful, doesn’t it?

I never cared much for January anyway. After-Christmas bills are piling in, it’s too cold to enjoy most outdoor sports (or the ones I like anyway), and everything looks so bare and dreary. No wonder this is the month for the most breakups.

But, other than that, why is it that January beats out the others?

Here’s my educated guess. Valentine’s Day is right around the corner.

Something clicks in people’s heads that if they plan on getting out, they better do it now before it’s too late. When Valentine’s Day hits, they surely want to be with someone they love, or they don’t want to break their once-loved one’s heart on the most romantic day of the year so they do it now.

Another reason why it might be that January brings forth more breakups than any other month could be that the new year signals new beginnings. It is a time when people step back and reflect on the previous year, and if there are changes to be made, this is the time to do it.

Unfortunate for some, these changes include a reevaluation of their love life.

If a relationship isn’t working, and can’t be fixed, a breakup is inevitable. The Dear John or Dear Janet letter goes out, and that’s if they even bother to tell them at all. Believe me, from what I hear, some choose to just vanish from the scene of the crime without any warning, the dirty scumbags that they are.

So, what happens if you’re the dumpee?

After you’ve mourned the loss of your relationship, turn the other cheek and try to learn what it is you were supposed to learn from the relationship. Every relationship is a learning lesson in humility, courage and stamina. Other lessons will be learned, but those are enough in itself.

If you keep in mind that every single person who comes into your life from here on out on a soul mate basis does so for a reason, it helps you to see why it is that people are there in the first place. Some are not meant to be long-term. In fact, some just come into your life to help you with a particular situation, and they are gone. More than likely, most of them left in January, according to statistics, but even though they are gone in the flesh, their spirit will linger forever.

The reason for this is that when two soul mates meet in the first place, it is one spirit calling to another. The one spirit recognizes the other spirit from a previous life perhaps, but whatever the case, there is instant recognition.

That recognition, that spiritual connection, will never go away even if the breakup ends on less than amicable terms.

This may or may not be what you want to hear, but from a professional stand-point, this is what happens.

So, if you happen to be one of the statistics this year, and you become the victim of a breakup, remember that there was a reason for the two of you to come together in the first place. Figure out what it was that you learned from it, and go on from there.

Breaking up is certainly hard to do because nothing hurts worse than the pain of the heart.

Even though it seems a callous thing on the part of your boyfriend/girlfriend, think of it as a favor. To extend a bad relationship would be detrimental to your well-being. Things would only escalate, and who knows what might happen.

There is a distinct plan for you, and this certain person was only meant to come into your life to teach you something, or you teach him, so find ways to look on this as a learning experience. You’ll come out ahead in the long run and it will only empower you for the next relationship.

And just think of how nice the next one will be because you have learned a valuable lesson that will give you more strength and power than you had before.

With each relationship, you grow stronger and more confident in what does and does not make you happy. Before long, you will find the one who is supposed to be with you on a long term basis.

Meanwhile, pick up the pieces, learn what it is you are supposed to learn from this relationship, and move on into a better life and a better world of pure, soul mate love.

© Dorothy Thompson

Relationship expert Dorothy Thompson is the editor/contributing author of ROMANCING THE SOUL and coaches those seeking answers to their soul mate questions. You can visit her website at www.dorothythompson.net or her blog at www.soulmateadvice.blogspot.com.

Tags: National Breakup Month, breaking up, relationship help, relationship advice, Valentine’s Day, soul mate

THE SEARCH FOR THE MILLION $$$ GHOST Book Trailer - A Paranormal Love Story

2007-01-05T06:55:00.000-08:00

This book answers the question of whether you will see your soul mate after you pass over. It's called THE SEARCH FOR THE MILLION $$$ GHOST and was written by Heide AW Kaminski, Pam Lawniczek and myself. This book is very special to me and I thought I'd give you a glimpse of what it's about on YouTube. The ebook can be found at Mardi Gras Publishing (www.mardigraspublishing.com) and Fictionwise, and will be available in print in February. Here's the book trailer...enjoy....

Happy New Year!

2006-12-31T19:22:00.000-08:00

To all my subscribers and readers, I'd like to wish every one of you the happiest new year! Although it's not officially 2007 for another couple of hours, let's take the time to reflect on what we have accomplished in the past year. Did we meet our goals? Did we try to be the best we can be?

I hope every one of you found your dreams; and if not, let's work even harder at finding what we are looking for and becoming who we want to be in the upcoming year. But, no matter what kind of resolutions you have lined up, the main key is to be happy.

With that in mind, I wish you a Happy New Year and may all your dreams come true!

Pet Nickname Generator

2006-11-23T15:06:00.000-08:00

I thought this was cute, and wanted to pass it along. This is a free generator to come up with pen names for your sweetie...cute!

http://links2love.com/nicknames.htm

Advice With a Heart

2006-11-21T07:31:00.000-08:00

You know, one of the worse things in my life as a soul mate relationship coach is having to tell people what they don't want to hear. I want to bring out that magic wand and do whatever it takes to have things happen they way they want it to happen. These people open up their hearts to me. I'm sure sometimes I'm their last resort, and I try to put this aside and answer from a professional point of view.

But, unfortunately, I also have a heart.

I try not to let this hamper my decision, for I know they are looking for expert advice, and I try to give it to them like it is, but I still pick up on their emotions, their anguish, their hopelessness.

This makes it really hard.

I am an empath, and this is one of the ways I am able to help people. As I am reading their letters, I can get inside their emotions, and I use this to help me give advice...with a heart.

I was reading a free newspaper the other day, and on the second page was a relationship column written by a local, and someone I didn't know.

Of course, being as she wrote in my field, I read her column, and all the while, trying to figure out how I would approach the same question.

I was just simply aghast at her answer.

The question was, "I am in love with a married man. Can you tell me what I should do?"

The so-called relationship columnist proceeded to berate her for even thinking such a thing. No words of wisdom. No help. Just her opinion on what an awful person she was, and basically grinding her spirit to the ground.

Before I read her answer, I knew what my answer would be. I knew that, unfortunately, some of our soul mates come into our lives at the wrong time. There are reasons for it, and either parties should not feel ashamed for what has happened. They should feel ashamed if they acted upon it, but not for the feelings they have for one another.

For, you see, the soul mate relationship is a whole different thing. Yes, it's about relationships, but you have to take a different approach. There are no society standards and no right or wrong moral issues, no matter what anyone says. It's on a different realm, and that realm is of a spiritual nature, and doesn't even enter into today's thinking of what is right and wrong.

It's often hard for people to perceive this. And this is why I'm here.

The soul mate world does not run by society's standards, nor are they governed by some narcissistic know-it-all with the diploma that states they have that right to tell people what they feel is right or wrong.

The soul mate world has to be interpreted through a medium that does not involve anything other than that deep understanding, and that spiritual communication that involves insight and intuitiveness. But, more than that, it involves knowing the way the soul mate relationship works. And no diploma will give you that.

You either have it, or you don't.

If you do have it, it's the most wonderful thing in the world because it gives you the power to look underneath the exterior, and delve into the interior where the true soul mate core lies.

I felt I had to get this message out because there are so many so-called "experts" out there that are doing more harm than good. Don't berate a person for something they either don't understand, or can't control. Help them. Show them the way out, so that they can go, "Okay, I understand that. Now, I can do something about it." Lead them back in the right direction, but don't make them feel that they are worthless because of something they had no control over.

And this is what the wonderful world of soul mates is really all about.

If you would like advice on the soul mate relationship, please visit www.soulmatequeen.com/freerelationshipadvice.html.

May all your soul mate dreams come true!

Dorothy Thompson
Relationship Expert & Author
www.dorothythompson.net

FREE HALLOWEEN EBOOK

2006-10-30T11:25:00.000-08:00

Happy Halloween everyone!

Not soul mate related, but....

I have an online writing group called The Writersville Gang, and we're pleased as punch to announce the release of our second free eBook, HAUNTED HAPPENINGS!

If you would like a free copy, visit www.writersville.homestead.com/hauntedhappenings.html.

Enjoy your free eBook, and please sign the guestbook to let us know what you think about the eBook, or just to say hello!

HAPPY HALLOWEEN!

Why are Psychics Clueless About Predicting Who Your Soul Mates Are?

2006-09-27T07:42:00.000-07:00

When I was a little itty-bitty girl, the one thing that really fascinated me about carnivals was the fortune teller booth. As I'd walk by with my hands full of cotton candy, I'd try to sneak a peak into the cracked door of the tent to see just what it was the fortune teller was doing in there.

Was she hiding behind a crystal ball, and giving fallacies, or was she actually in there telling the future? The price was reasonable, so if you felt you were dupped, you laughed about it.

On a message board today, I was reading someone's post about how clueless some psychics were at predicting your twin soul. Their reasoning was that if one psychic told them one thing, and another something completely different, and yet neither one was correct, what was going on here? Can you or can't you predict who someone's twin soul was?

The answer is you can't. No psychic in the world can tell you who your twin soul (or any soul mate) is, but they can give you their gut "feelings" or "visions" on the matter.

Some of these feelings or visions might be somewhat on track, and yet, others way off track.

So, how can we trust a psychic to tell us the truth?

I am a spatial clairsentient, which basically means I can see images from afar. When I have friends, or clients, on Instant Messenger, I pick up on things. We'll be right in the middle of the conversation, and I'll ask them if they're wearing pink sandals. Nine times out of ten, I'm right, or close.

These images pop up out of nowhere, but it all has to do with your psychic abilities to pick up on these things.

I am not a psychic; yet I do possess an intuitiveness and an insight, and a gift of seeing things that are not in front of me. This helps tremendously in my coaching others on the subject of soul mates.

And, the crazy thing about it, is I can't force it. The images, or feelings, has to come to me naturally.

When psychics use their "crystal ball" at a carnival for instance, they're forcing it. And they end up guessing most times.

But, if you want to really know who your twin soul is, all you have to do is learn to do it the way I do it. By listening to your intuition.

We all possess intuition. We all have the ability to feel if something is right, or not.

But the one thing I explain to people about the twin soul relationship is that it's that spiritual feeling you feel deep inside with that person that determines who your twin soul is. In more times than not, it's not a sexual feeling. It's a feeling deep inside of you that goes right to your gut.

Think of it like this. It's your spirit communicating with your twin soul spirit, unbeknownst to you.

It might sound a little New Agey, but that's putting it in a nutshell.

So, the next time you feel a spiritual connection with someone, give them another glance.

It could be your twin soul.

Romancing the Soul - # 2 Bestselling Book at Zumaya Publications

2006-09-12T18:13:00.000-07:00

Wonderful news...I just found out (thanks to Kathy Holmes!) that Romancing the Soul, my soul mate anthology, is # 2 bestselling book at Zumaya Publications! Can I get a woop-woop????

Check it out at http://www.zumayapublications.html/!

Can You Reverse Soul Mate Energy?

2006-07-28T21:29:00.000-07:00

Q: I understand that when soulmates meet very often one may pick up on the connection whilst the other dosn't or goes into denial. I've heard that the energy connection can be put into the spiritual reverse so the other mate gets more interactive. How would you encourage this spiritual reverse of the energies?

A: The first thing you need to look into is why it is that one soul mate feels the spiritual connection, but the other doesn’t. That is your key. I feel that when the love isn’t reciprocated, the one who is backing off is the one who has not come to terms with him or herself. In other words, there is still some baggage that the other is not letting go of which is preventing them from opening up their heart and feeling this soul mate energy. I feel that they do feel it, but for one reason or another, and because they still have some karma within themselves to work out, they put up a block. In most cases, they are putting up that block because of past hurts, although there are zillions of other reasons such as maybe they need space to find out who they are before they begin another relationship.

To reverse the energy connection would be to find a way to knock down that block, of course. I really don’t believe we have that power to do so because we are not that person and we have not gone through the same experiences they have that caused the block. Sure, we can be sympathetic and try all we can to help that person see it our way, but it’s not going to happen until it’s time for it to happen.

I have found that timing plays a huge part in whether soul mates are meant to be together at a particular time in history. I also feel that our life’s paths were already mapped out before we were born, so it wouldn’t be following either one’s life path to MAKE it happen and would, basically, screw up the scheme of things.

There was an interesting story I read about a man who believed he could turn a woman he had never met into his soul mate. He made the news and everything. Promoted the heck out of it.

The story goes he found the woman with whom he planned on doing this on an airplane. She balked at first, but then relented. Leaving her family and the life she once knew behind, she joined him and they began their relationship. It bombed eventually and she flew back to her homeland citing the relationship was more like an experiment, which it basically was, and didn’t feel natural.

I found the man’s email address and emailed him, telling him that soul mates cannot be “made,” and instead had to be born into it.

He didn’t take kindly to it and I suppose he was embarrassed the whole thing bombed.

In essence, I don’t believe that you can reverse the soul mate energies. If the timing isn’t right at this particular time, perhaps it will be right further down the road. You just can’t force the soul mate relationship. Let it happen on its own accord. It stands a better chance at succeeding.

Hope this helps! ;o)

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If you have a soul mate question and would like my assistance, you are welcome to fill out the online form at my website, The Soul Mate Queen, at www.soulmatequeen.com. This is a FREE feature. Please state on your form if you do not want your question and my answer made public on this blog. Future questions and answers will appear on this blog unless you have stated otherwise.

SOUL MATE TIP OF THE DAY:

Remember that all soul mates play important parts in your lives and that no one particular soul mate is more important than the other for they all are meant to come into your life to help you reach your higher self. ;o)

Dorothy Thompson
Relationship Expert & Author
www.dorothythompson.net
www.soulmatequeen.com

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Feng Shui sparks romance, Travel Trend in US

2006-05-16T11:40:00.000-07:00

Some lonely Americans are eschewing Internet dating and instead putting their faith in feng shui in a bid to find their romantic soul mates.

Read rest of article here.

New Blog!

2006-05-14T17:47:00.000-07:00

Since I can't figure out how to pull my right hand sidebar and links up to the top of the page, I've started another blog until I can get this thing figured out. The link is www.soulmatequeen.blogspot.com.

Thanks!

Dorothy

Are You a Soul Mate or Relationship Expert?

2006-05-12T06:56:00.000-07:00

If you are a soul mate or relationship expert, we want to hear from you! In the next few weeks, I will be posting interviews from experts all over the world who are knowledgable in the soul mate/relationship field. If you write or teach others about soul mates or relationships in general, please email me at soulmateexpert (at) yahoo.com and I will send you the short interview for you to fill out. Your interview will appear live at this blog which shows up predominantly in the search engines, as well as my newsletter. Added exposure!

So, if you would like the chance to give your opinion on the soul mate phenomenon, give me a buzz...or rather...send me an email soon!

Thanks and may all your soul mate dreams come true!

Dorothy

The Soul Mate Queen’s Virtual Blog Tour

2006-04-17T09:21:00.000-07:00

Dorothy Thompson, also known as The Soul Mate Queen, announces her first virtual blog tour stop at Lisa
Renee Jones’ blog to announce her new relationship e-class “The Soul Mate Triangle – Unlocking the Mysteries of the Soul Mate Relationship” which will begin taking students on May 1, 2006.

“The Soul Mate Triangle – Unlocking the Mysteries of the Soul Mate Relationship” is a one-on-one personalized relationship e-class that is guaranteed to find your soul mate(s) by the end of the class or your money back.

This is an ongoing relationship e-class – sign up whenever it’s convenient for YOU – that is delivered to your e-mail box. This is to provide for you total anonymity and so that Dorothy can evaluate your situation and help you in areas that need attention without anyone else knowing
who you are or interfering with the process.

Hurry over to Lisa’s blog today because the virtual blog tour ends on Wednesday!

If you would like to learn more about this e-class, you can visit here.

If you have any questions, you can email Dorothy at
thewriterslife(at)yahoo.com.

May all your soul mate dreams come true!

Dorothy

Have You Found Your Twin Soul?

2006-03-30T21:13:00.000-08:00

I had an interesting email come in this morning from a young man who found himself in an awkward position. He was about to get married, but lo and behold, someone stepped into his life and the connection was so strong, he just had to write to me and ask what I thought about it.

I get questions all the time from those seeking answers to their perplexing soul mate questions, but the ones that really intrigue me are the ones that have had their twin souls enter their life, only they didn't know it.

I love explaining what the twin soul relationship is all about because I feel that this third group of soul mates (karmic and companion being the other two) is so interesting. There is so much more involved in this relationship than any other relationship out there.

A couple days I had a woman who I syndicate my articles to ask me about twin souls. And these are only two examples. There are millions of people out there that are looking for their twin soul, yet they have yet to find them (or so they think) and they want to know the secret.

The secret is held in my book,
How to Find and Keep Your Soul Mate (I know, shameless plug), but I will say this much: everyone has a twin soul, just like everyone has karmic and companion soul mates, but they all come into your life on a different level.

The first thing you will notice is that spiritual connection. If the spiritual connection is not present (and you will know it), then it's not your twin soul. And, in a lot of cases I have seen, you will already be in a committed relationship when he/she enters your life. Makes for a complicated situation, don't you think?

Can we be in love with two people at the same time? Sure, we can. We're only human. But, the thing is, both persons are in your life for separate reasons. You will find that one person fulfills a need you have, while the other fills another.

I was in a committed relationship when I met my twin soul. Yes, I felt that spiritual connection, but never acted upon it or acknowledged it because I was with someone else. In time, the connection surfaced to a point where it was time to face up to what was happening. I didn't want to hurt my "companion" soul mate, but I couldn't ignore what was to be my twin soul, either.

In time, I knew that it was meant for me to say with my companion soul mate and I let my twin soul go. He ended up dying of a broken heart two weeks later.

Not all twin soul relationships happen that tragically, but it's an example of how strong the pull is. Hurting of the heart is one of the most painful hurts one can ever experience, as we all have been through it and know.

But, the point is, you can love more than one person at one time, just on different levels. I'm curious, have you met your twin soul when you were already in a relationship and you chose to stay in your relationship? Or did you find the strength to forgo your present relationship and be with your twin soul?

If so, please leave a comment or email me personally at thewriterslife@yahoo.com. I am conducting interviews for a book I am writing on the subject. Thank you!

Call for Interviewees for New Soul Mate Book

2006-03-26T18:47:00.000-08:00

Have you ever been in a loving relationship with your companion soul mate when your twin soul entered your life? Did you decide to stay in your present relationship and let your twin soul go?

I need to interview you!

I'm looking for subjects to interview for a new soul mate book in which I am exploring the soul mate relationship. You can be completely anonymous. Send me an email at thewriterslife (at) yahoo.com and please put "twin soul story," in the subject line.

Thank you and I look forward to hearing YOUR twin soul story.

Dorothy

COLUMN: Is He My Soul Mate - Or Not?

2006-03-16T11:04:00.000-08:00

Defining the soul mate relationship as opposed to any other kind of relationship is not so hard once you understand what soul mates are all about. So few people really know how to go about doing this, but it’s not as difficult as it seems.

I had a client not too long ago tell me that she had been with a man for a long time and that she was positive she was totally in love with him—and not lust love—and that she didn’t know how to tell if he was her soul mate and if he felt the same. She wanted to know how she could tell, which is one of the more common questions I hear.

“I’m in love, but is it the real thing?”

The real thing. Just what is the real thing and how can you tell?

First of all, if you are in love with someone, he/she is your soul mate, but just as there are varying degrees of love, there are varying kinds of soul mates. It sounded to me like in this woman’s case, it was the companion soul mate to whom she was referring.

All companion soul mates, unless they choose not to for various reasons, involve intimacy on different levels. The other two kinds of soul mates—karmic soul mates and twin souls—rarely involve sexual relations. Hard to believe, but it’s true.

As with all companion soul mates, these people come into your life for a particular reason. Is it for marriage? Is it to produce offspring?

Only you can determine that as the relationship gets further along, but one thing is for sure: he or she is meant to be a part of your life. No two soul mates come together without a purpose. That is how you can differentiate acquaintances you meet in your daily life from people with whom you share a soul mate bond.

If you are in love, you are in love. You feel it, it makes you happy and fulfilled and you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. A natural thing to happen to two people who are soul mates.

However, if further down the road, the two soul mates should part because of differences, that soul mate was still meant to come into your life.

When two people come together as soul mates, there is a purpose for them to do so; but when that purpose has been realized as well as finalized, the two may part but that is not because they weren’t meant to be a part of each other’s lives.

It is because their mission together on earth has been accomplished.

When this happens, the two begin to feel as if they are drifting apart and they have no idea what is going on. Their inner self is trying to tell them that there are other soul mates out there that they need in their life in order to be complete.

Yes, it may be sad for one or even both partners, but this is the nature of things, especially if you are just starting out in life.

You need to go through necessary steps in order to be complete and it may take one, or it may take several, soul mates to help you with this, but every last one of them that comes into your life are important, and necessary.

My advice is to: live, love, learn. Live to your highest expectations, love like there is no tomorrow and learn what each soul mate that enters into your life is meant to teach you about life, about yourself, and about why the two of you were brought together in the first place.
Once we learn to do this, we are that much closer to finding our higher self and on the road toward a productive and happy life.

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Author and relationship expert Dorothy Thompson "The Soul Mate Queen" is one of the nation's leading authorities on soul mates. Her book Romancing the Soul and e-books How to Find and Keep Your Soul Mate and 101 Facts You Never Knew About Soul Mates are three of the most comprehensive guides to explaining what soul mates are really all about. Dorothy's relationship columns have appeared in publications in the U.S. and abroad and has been quoted in such books as Mean Girls Grown Up: Adult Women Who Are Still Queen Bees, Middle Bees, and Afraid-to-Bees by Cheryl Dellasega. She is a popular radio media guest, appearing on such shows as Lifetime Radio, Single Talk (World Talk Radio), Around2It, and Cuzin Eddie Show with Penny Sansevieri and 850 KOA-AM (Clear Channel Radio with listeners in 38 states, Canada and Mexico) and other media outlets.

To receive a FREE special report on "Ten Tips in Identifying Your Soul Mate," visit her personal website at http://www.dorothythompson.net/ or her soul mate advice website at http://www.soulmateadvice.homestead.com

You can also visit her blog at
http://www.overthehillchick.blogspot.com/

Finding Love Later In Life

2006-02-28T10:37:00.000-08:00

Hi everyone!

I have a request this time. I am writing a relationship book centering on the theme of soul mates. I have just about wrapped it up, except I'd like to know if anyone out there has found their soul mate later in life?

If you are a boomer chick or gent and would like to help me finish this book, and you have an interesting story to tell about how you found love later in life, email me at thewriterslife@yahoo.com and I'll fill you in on the details.

Thanks and may all your soul mate dreams come true!

Dorothy
www.dorothythompson.net

Can We Love From Afar?

2006-02-14T21:36:00.000-08:00

Q: I have a question regarding a person in my life I believe is my true soul mate. We met nearly 2 years ago and our coonection was more complete that any either of us had experienced before. I have never been married, am the mother of a 14 year old son. When we met he was going thru a very nasty divorce. We were together and then for reasons due to his employment, he is a consultant, we have been apart. He is in Hyderabad since 10/04. We have kept in touch via email and have seen each other twice since he left. We both feel as if we are soul mates and openly share these emotions but I desire so much for him to be back in my life in a physical presence. I guess I am wondering how does one sustain loving so much from so far away and why did it happen to begin with? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.

A: Thank you so much for your question!

Actually, your question is quite common. How do you sustain a relationship from afar and why did it happen in the first place?

I believe that this person who came into your life did so for a very important reason. The vibes are there...everything seems to be in synch, so why is it that he cannot be in my life physically and how do I get through this without losing my everloving mind?

Well, the secret is this. You and this man have touched on a spiritual level. You've already made physical contact, and that's a good start because the instant you meet is when you feel the spiritual connection. If it's not there at the beginning, it's not the true soul mate bond.

So, let's just say that the spiritual connection is in place. What do you do now?

The best advice I can give you is not to obsess.

Get involved in things you like to do or you're going to get yourself into a state that is not compatible with the soul mate experience. In other words, be happy within your present life.

By not obsessing over this, you'll accomplish two things.

One, you'll be doing something productive and this can only be positive towards your self-fulfillment, happiness and self-growth (no matter how old you are, you're still growing mentally).

And two, the soul mate in question will look to you in better light. Sure, he probably knows that he's missed, as you and he are on that same spiritual realm, but he will see a strong woman; a woman who can withstand being apart from him.

What will happen is that his psyche is going to do two things.

He's going to see you as someone who can withstand the pressures of life and can hold up her own end when faced with a challenge.

And, two, he's going to try even harder to find a way to be with you because he's not the subject of ALL your interests as you have become a productive, busy and happy woman.

See how that works?

Now, in time, if it's meant to be, it will happen. If everything is in place, both your and his psyches are in the right frame of mind and both of you are leading productive and happy lives on each of your ends, only positive results can occur.

However, if it does not happen, you have to look at why it is that caused the block. Is it out of your hands? Can he not come home because he is employed so far away and it's not possible?

Or, does the spiritual connection exist over time and space and bring two lovers who are meant to be in each other's lives together?

I'd love for you to keep in contact with me as I'd love to see what happens over time.

Hope this helps and if you have anymore questions, please feel free to ask. ;o)

Love and Light, Dorothy

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Dorothy ThompsonAuthor, Syndicated Relationship Columnist, Soul Mate Relationship Coach
http://www.dorothythompson.net

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Do you have a question you would like answered about the soul mate relationship?
Send your question to Soul Mate Relationship Coach Dorothy Thompson at thewriterslife@yahoo.com or fill out the online form at AskDorothy.

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In honor of Valentine's Day, I'm Having a Contest!

2006-02-12T15:37:00.000-08:00

In honor of Valentine's Day, I'm hosting a contest over on my blog at Boomer Chick!

Anyone who goes here and tells me about their soul mate is eligible to win one of two free copies of my anthology of true soul mate stories, Romancing the Soul.

So, hop on over there....contest ends on February 17, 2006 and contest winners will be announced on February 20, 2006.

Happy Valentine's Day to one and all and may all your soul mate dreams come true!

Dorothy

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT - New E-book Cover!!!

2006-01-02T09:26:00.000-08:00

Hope everyone had a wonderful New Year's!

I've started the new year out with a bang with a brand new cover of my e-book, How to Find and Keep Your Soul Mate. Isn't it BEA-U-TI-FUL???

If you'd like to find out how to purchase this e-book, click here.

May all your soul mate dreams come true for the coming year and the rest of your life!

Dorothy

Q & A with Dorothy Thompson

2005-12-12T04:41:00.000-08:00

Q & A with Dorothy Thompson

I've had many people ask me questions about the soul mate experience, but I'd like to take the time now to answer those questions that people ask me about how I became involved in the first place. This will be an ongoing series here in which I will answer whatever questions you have for me and hope that it will help you understand why I'm on this mission. If you have a question you would like to ask for a future "Q & A with Dorothy Thompson" regarding my experiences with the soul mate phenomenon, email me at thewriterslife (at) yahoo.com and your answers will appear on this blog at a future date. Here are just a few questions to whet your appetite for more!

Q: How do you know so much about soul mates?

A: Insight. An incredible amount of insight. I think that when one experiences things in life to the point where it becomes so much a part of their life, they pick up on some incredible information which evolves from this experience. I don’t know any other way of explaining it. It’s a gift and one in which I want to share and, hopefully, save a few people from making earth-shattering mistakes not only in their relationships, but in their own personal lives, too.

Q: Have you always believed in soul mates?

A: I was like most people out there, unsure if what I was experiencing was the real thing. I believed that there was someone out there and that person would be my knight in shining armor. Boy, was I wrong. I made many mistakes, but it’s those mistakes which I have learned from and today, I have found my companion soul mate and am very happy. But, if my twin soul hadn’t entered my life years ago, I would never have become enlightened to what the twin soul experience is all about and it’s not what most people think it is.

Q: You speak of having a companion soul mate, but then a twin soul. Aren't they one and the same?

A: A companion soul mate is different from your twin soul. They are but two of the three kinds of soul mates that enter your life. The karmic soul mate is the third.

In my life, they are two different people, but yet they are two different people that were meant to come into my life. Between them both, they have given me incredible insight on what the soul mate experience is all about so I can share it with you.

Q: Where is your twin soul now?

A: My twin soul died in 2001, the same week the terrorists attacked New York City and Washington, D.C. Mixed emotions that week, for sure. He was the inspiration for my latest book, Romancing the Soul.

Q: What do you think people think the soul mate relationship is all about and how is this different from your own views?

A: In my experience, most people think that there is only one out there for you and that person is the one who you marry. While this is true in some cases, what about those soul mates out there that you don’t marry? We can’t sweep them under the rug like they don’t exist, can we? I believe that we have many soul mates and each one has a purpose in our lives. Some we have deep friendship with, some we marry and some are just special people who make impacts on our lives.

Q: How would you describe a soul mate?

A: A soul mate is someone very special who comes into your life to give it new meaning. Their appearance isn’t coincidental. Timing plays a huge factor in when a certain soul mate shows up. It just depends on which road in life you are on.

Q: Do you think we all have soul mates?

A: Of course! That’s what my book, Romancing the Soul, is all about – exploiting the myths and making people realize that everyone has a soul mate.

Q: What do you say to people who feel frustrated that they haven’t met their soul mate yet?

A: I tell them to not worry about it. If you actively pursue a “soul mate,” it’s only because you feel a void in your life. Accept happiness into your life by doing things for yourself – things that make you happy. If you want someone to love you, become the person someone would want to love and the only way you can do that is to love yourself first.

Q: I understand that you have an ebook about soul mates, too. Can you tell me where it's sold?

A: My ebook, How to Find and Keep Your Soul Mate, is only available for download on my website. The price is only $4.99! Thanks for asking!

Q: Will you have more books coming out in the future?

A: Sure! I am presently in the final stages of writing a nonfiction relationship book focusing on the soul mate relationship which should be finished by the end of the year.

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Childhood Sweethearts

2005-11-08T19:16:00.000-08:00

Childhood sweethearts – that first time we feel the stirrings of romantic feelings – is a magical time in which pangs of heart-felt emotions touches us in a way that we’ll remember the rest of our lives and will shape our future in the romance department. Where boyfriends or girlfriends come and go as we grow up and eventually have families of our own, it’s that childhood sweetheart that we remember most. It’s something about our first real young love that we recall with fond memories because it is the first love that was genuine and bittersweet. Our heart is but a virgin organ until our childhood sweetheart walks into our life and changes our lives forever. It is that first love that we carry with us throughout life, never forgetting those sweet moments of innocence. They leave with us a legacy that time cannot erase.

Everyone remembers their first kiss and the first time they had intimate, physical relations, but do you remember your first childhood sweetheart where there were no pressures on either side? Why is it that this one sweetheart is unforgettable of all the other relationships you’ll ever have?

As we get older and fall in and out of love, it’s that one soul mate, that first soul mate – whether you are seven or seventy-seven – that introduces you to what it feels like to be in love. The reason why it is so memorable and so magical is that this is the time when you love someone outside of the family circle and it stirs emotions that are new to you, yet oh-so-wonderful. While it leaves you with many confused feelings because it is your first, it makes you feel alive like never before.

Just like any other kind of soul mate, our childhood sweetheart will, in time, leave us to embark on their own life journey, but they leave with us an urge to experience that same feeling with someone else again. It is that first experience with love that gets the ball rolling in a quest to recapture that exhilirous feeling of having someone love you and you giving love in return.As a child growing up on the Eastern Shore of Virginia, and then in Burbank, California, I was painfully shy. If a boy were to so much as say hi to me, I’d run. However, I found that boys didn’t want anything to do with girls at this stage so the most contact I had with them was trying to beat them up for different, odd-like things that boys of a young age do.

Also, there was a stigma associated with having a boy like you and that you’d get a bad case of cooties and would have to spend the rest of your life in bed which was something close to called “the kiss of death.”

When I entered into the fourth grade, I still had this mindset that boys were to be avoided, but there was one boy who stood out from the rest. His name was Bruce (his last name escapes me). Bruce and I attended Abraham Lincoln Elementary School in Burbank, California, in the early sixties. The face escapes me, but it wasn’t so much as physical looks, but what he was as a “person” that made me rethink the cootie theory.

Bruce was well liked by everyone. I don’t recall why, but I do remember that he had this unmistakable charisma that made you want to respond to his “hi” if the situation warranted it, even as red-faced as you were.

One day, the class was playing some kind of game where you take your fist and hit the ball against this backboard and the opposing team member did the same. They might have called it handball; I’m not sure.

I was terrible at sports. But, Bruce let me win that round that day.

The feeling that gave me is so hard to put into words. I knew that he could have beaten me hands tied behind his back, but he let me win. It was that very day that confirmed that Bruce and I were soul mates. He was the first boy in my whole short life who wanted to see me do something great and feel good about myself and that stuck with me the rest of my life.

I never found out what happened to Bruce, yet every now and then, I’d get this urge to see if I could find him. Internet searches turned up not much as I didn’t have a last name to go by, yet I’ve always had this urge to want to contact him. Why? I’m not even sure, except maybe to thank him for showing me a side of the opposite sex that was quite surprising, even for a nine-year-old.

Another reason I think he holds a candle to my heart could be that he was a part of my past – a part of my past I will never be able to capture except in my memories. And it is that past that people want to hold on to as it’s part of their history – part of them that shows them who they were at one time and, although our past has a lot to do with who we are today, they can never relive.

We can’t go backwards in time, but it’s those small things about our past that stand out more than the rest. It is our childhood sweethearts that we hold a special place in our heart and which shapes our future relationships in more ways than you’ll ever realize.

Do you have a childhood sweetheart that still holds a candle to your heart? If so, please email me at thewriterslife@yahoo.com or leave a comment here. There is a section in my book on soul mates (and another book in the works) that explains how our childhood sweethearts have an influence on our lives. If you would like to tell me your story, and would like to be interviewed, please let me know. It's an important part of our lifetime of relationships and my books will show you why. Thanks!